What does it mean – “let’s just be friends”? If you’ve done a lousy job of attracting a woman, or maybe you did it great for a while and then slacked off and got boring, you would probably hear this phrase from her sooner or later.
If you have a long-term relationship, as long as a woman is in love, she does not stop intimate relations with her partner and could tell him that she needs him to just be her friend! However, that is the kind of thing that a woman tells a man when her interest level has sunk below the point of no return and she is trying to let him down easy.
The other situation is when a man and a woman are just a good acquaintance or a close friends. They know each other, but have not intimacy yet. Often a man is attracted by a woman, but he is not entirely sure how to play with this girl. He thinks that building a good rapport with her will allow him to win her heart. Therefore, he plays nicely trying to satisfy her needs, although he still has not received signs of deeper interest from her. He is so afraid, uncertain, or passive. He is prone to buy things, has a long-lasting conversation, and gets an attention…… but something’s missing. Actually, this something is sexuality. The sexual presence and chemistry or just “the real man’s power” who wake ups her femininity and excites her women’s mind.
But what do the guys need to do if they want to be more than “let’s just be friends”?
Having instant chemistry with a woman is a beautiful thing to experience. But just because the sparks are flying between you and a woman in the early stages of dating, that in itself is no guarantee that the two of you are going to wind up having a solid relationship. Someone is going to see that this shit is because lack chemistry, but the truth is that you need more than chemistry. In fact, many people approach someone they are attracted to as “just a friend” because it is much easier and less emotionally risky.
Even though adding in great compatibility and intellectual rapport is not strong enough to guarantee a successful relationship. You actually have to know how to emotionally entice her, deeply attract her own and don’t stop to flirt with her, just like in the early stages of your relationship. When managed properly, a female’s initial animal attraction toward you can be cultivated into sustained, deep, abiding romantic interest. How is that done? You have to learn what it means to be a challenge.
If a girl ever blocks advancing the relationship by popping that dreaded phrase, you just say “No thanks, I have enough friends.” By continuing this type of relationship, you portray yourself as someone who has nothing better to do than hang around with a girl who is not that interested in you. The relationship will never get to where you want to go to bed for some romance, passion, and sex. A flattering rejection of her offer could be: “I don’t view you as a friend. I view you as a woman – a very sensual and intelligent woman. And I won’t apologize for that. If you’re going to make me another one of your girlfriends, I’m not interested”.
Guys usually will completely turn around the relationship as soon as a girl sees that he is willing to “walk” than accept something that is not on his terms. If you walk away from such a relationship, you would have established that you are the type used to leading a relationship, you have plenty of other girls willing to take you on your terms, and she is losing out.
When do you give up on a girl? When do you decide that a relationship is not advancing? When you are the only one making an effort keep it advancing. If she is not putting energy in to you, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. Don’t stay where you are not appreciated. If this situation does occur, try to figure out why. How did she perceive you? What turned her off? Learn from your mistakes.
Another tactic, if you can see that you are approaching “Let’s Just Be Friend – zone“, you should completely and totally cut off all contact with her for a few months. When you come back, you will be more of a stranger, and less of a “close friend”.
If you decide to keep her as a friend, make sure that it is on your terms. Tell her that you’re going to treat her like the one of your friends. She is going to help you meet women, and you are going to meet other women in front of her. If she refuses, say: “Ok, fine… but I offered you my time sexually, then I offered you my time non-sexually. You’ve just turned down both. What did you want to meet me for?” “Fine, then be a good friend and hook me up with some of your horny friends.”
People can hear this phrase – “Let’s just be friends” for a number of reasons. Sometimes, they don’t make themselves attractive to others or they pick the wrong person, who doesn’t match them as a lover. Often, they aren’t sure and/or don’t know what they need to get. Other times, they do too much, sometimes desperately, and don’t allow the other person to invest and fall in love as well.
Fortunately, if we understand our mistakes, we can probably find an effective solutions which can avoid “Let’s just be friends”. But it takes time developing a more attractive and successful personality, finding better partners who “fit” our needs, being a bit more assertive about what we need, motivating others to give back and invest in us too. The truth is that we deserve to have what we want. So, find someone who will be good enough to give you what you need!
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